2026 Disneyland Trip #1 (1/1/26)

2026-01-01 10:07 pm[personal profile] torachan
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The forecast was saying the afternoon would be clear, but we were still expecting some rain in the morning, but while there was some on the drive down, it had stopped by the time we got there.

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Snowflake Challenge #1

2026-01-01 08:34 pm[personal profile] snickfic
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two log cabins with snow on the roofs in a wintery forest the text snowflake challenge january 1 - 31 in white cursive text

The Icebreaker Challenge: Introduce yourself. Tell us why you're doing the challenge, and what you hope to gain from it.

For those unsure what the heck the Snowflake Challenge is, it's a DW event through the month of January where they post a prompt every other day on [community profile] snowflake_challenge, and you can respond on your journal to whichever ones you want, at your leisure. (If that's unclear or you're curious for more details, feel free to ask me. I was very confused for a long time about how it worked.)

Anyway! Hi, I'm snick. I'm a fandom old who came to fandom via Buffy the Vampire Slayer a bit after the show had ended. My fannish evolution was something like:
1. Got into Buffy fandom, made my first fandom friends, wrote my first fanfic
2. Got into Supernatural, discovered kink memes, wrote my first porn
3. Got into hockey RPF, learned how to write. As mentioned above, I wrote before that, some that I'm still very proud of, but I feel like I really came of age as a writer in hockey fandom.

Since then I've spent time in the MCU, I got more into horror movies and sometimes into their fandoms, and I got into the band Oasis and have written a bunch of fic about that. I also got more and more into multi-fandom exchanges as a way to fill in the gaps (with mixed success) when I kept getting into smaller, less active fandoms.

These days, this journal is mostly for movie and book reviews and locked personal posts, but I do occasionally post unlocked about my writing or fannish events, that kind of thing. Every so often I even post news or meta about my fandoms, although that doesn't feel like what people do here on DW anymore, alas.

And to answer the other question, I'm doing the Snowflake Challenge because I really like seeing more activity on DW. I'm hoping for some prompts this year that will give me excuses to write about fandom stuff I'm excited about, which as mentioned above I rarely get around to doing. And I look forward to reading everyone else's posts and hopefully interacting with them more. <3
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Daily Happiness

2026-01-01 08:30 pm[personal profile] torachan
torachan: takatsuki & nitorin from hourou musuko (trans kids)
1. It was rainy this morning but I managed not to get rained on. When I woke up, I could hear the rain and was not looking forward to going out in it for my morning walk, because then I'd get my shoes wet and have to wear wet shoes later, but I looked at my phone and the weather app said it was supposed to stop raining in five minutes and be dry for at least half an hour and it did and it was! I did get dripped on a bit by trees, but that was fine. And then later in the morning we went to Disneyland and it rained on the drive down, but stopped by the time we got there and was dry all afternoon and evening. We're still supposed to get some more rain here and there over the next few days, but at least it seems to be more sporadic.

2. We had a really nice time today at Disneyland. The rain helped keep people away (especially in the morning), plus although it's still officially the holiday season through the weekend, the crowds are just not as wild as they were in the lead-up to Christmas.

3. The shopping center where the newest Tokyo Central is in Irvine formerly had a Persian market called Super Irvine. I had originally assumed they went out of business or something and that's why the space was for lease, but it seems like the property owner had wanted to completely raze the building and start from scratch, and the Super Irvine just moved to a new location, which just opened a couple months ago. We watched a video walkthrough recently and it looked really neat, so we've been wanting to check it out. There are a bunch of Persian shops in Westwood, which is very close, but nothing this huge (and because it's so large, it has a lot of other international stuff as well as just Persian). Irvine is just a short drive from Disneyland (especially on a day like today with no traffic), so we decided to go down there before going home, and had a lot of fun checking it out.

4. I don't really do resolutions, but there are a couple things I want to do this year. One is to try doing a wider variety of things. I like routine and it's very easy to get stuck in a rut and do something familiar, whether it's going to the same places or eating the same foods, but there are so many other things I want to do also, so I want to try and change that. So we'll probably go to Disneyland less often this year, but we go ridiculously often, so even if we go only 2-3 times a month that's still, objectively speaking, a lot lol. And it was nice today; we hadn't been in two weeks, and it felt fresher and less like just doing the same old thing.

The other thing I want to do this year is get a tattoo. I have wanted to get a tattoo forever. I have always thought they were cool and wanted one, but the problem is I don't have any strong feelings about what I want. Maybe something cat or dragon related. Maybe something rainbow/queer. idk. I have to think about it. But I'll be fifty this year and it seems like a good time. Also I find the whole process really overwhelming, in terms of finding someone and the design phase, etc. Anyone who has tattoos and has advice/suggestions about anything, please feel free to comment!

5. I wish Gemma wasn't always so suspicious of me, but she is very cute when she's suspicious.

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December Book Log

2026-01-01 08:43 pm[personal profile] astrogirl
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Happy New Year!

I'm still looking backwards into the old year for the moment, though. I only just recently remembered that I still need to do my usual year-end fic round-up post, and, of course, there's also the book log post for December. The former will probably have to wait until I have a little more time and energy, maybe tomorrow, but here's how my 2025 reading year ended:

( 81. The Wine-Dark Sea by Patrick O'Brian )

( 82. Dark Places by Gillian Flynn )

( 83. Terry Pratchett: A Life With Footnotes: The Official Biography by Rob Wilkins )

( 84. Christmas and Other Horrors: A Winter Solstice Anthology edited by Ellen Datlow )

( 85. The Invention of Hugo Cabret by Brian Selznick )

( 86. Algospeak: How Social Media Is Transforming the Future of Language by Adam Aleksic )

( 87. A Psalm for the Wild-Built by Becky Chambers )

( 88. The Age of Calamities: Stories by Senaa Ahmad )

( 89. Understanding Comics: The Invisible Art by Scott McCloud )

( 90. Doctor Who - the Scripts: The Power of the Daleks by David Whitaker )
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Yuletide fics I wrote!

2026-01-01 07:14 pm[personal profile] snickfic
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I had a fantastic Yuletide this year. I got two great gifts. I managed to write FOUR things for the main collection, a personal best! (The closest I've come previously is three in the main collection and one in Madness, and that was back in 2013.) I got really nice comments on them, even the one for a fandom I didn't think anyone would know. <3 And then I had so much fun browsing the collection this year, and I found some really wonderful fic. Perfect experience, no notes, can't wait to do it again next year.

Interestingly, everything I wrote this year was for fandoms I watched or reviewed specifically for Yuletide. Like, the two movies are two I pulled out of the Yuletide tagset and put on my to-watch list. I always enjoy making those lists from the tagset, but I don't think they've ever borne so much fruit directly before. (Then again, most of my old standbys that I don't need to review, like Oasis and Re-Animator and Scream, are now too big for Yuletide. That's probably a factor.)

First, my assignment:
stave my soul, Moby Dick, Ishmael/Queequeg, 2.7k. A ghost story. Last year I really wanted to reread Moby Dick and write Yuletide treats, I got about a third of the way in, and then I bogged down and didn't finish. This year, I wanted the same but even more, to the point that I not only offered it instead of planning to just treat, but I got very brave and culled my offers until nearly all my matches were Moby Dick.

I got assigned to whalebone (yes, really) and wrote this in a few days. The idea came to me pretty much fully-formed, and it should have been relatively easy to write once I got a handle on the narrative voice, but it was one of those times where I was finding writing very hard and was really mad at my past self for putting me in the situation, to the point that I wished I'd defaulted before the default deadline.

But! I did manage to write the fic more or less exactly as I'd planned. And this was by far my most popular fic this Yuletide, with more comments than I've gotten in a week on anything since 2020.

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fires of love, Moby Dick, Ishmael/Queequeg, 2.2k, omegaverse. Then I turned around and wrote a treat, and it was Moby Dick omegaverse. In fact, qkind's prompt for this last year was the number one reason I wanted to reread the book, and I was very happy that they prompted it again this year.

The big appeal here was describing an omegaverse scenario in Ishmael's inimatable prose, and I had a great time trying. In fact the first writing I did for Yuletide was some paragraphs of this that I got in the shower. Ishmael discoursing about omegaverse gender stuff was a hoot to write. This might be my favorite Yuletide fic I wrote this year.

I don't know if I'll write more Moby Dick; I feel like I've gotten those two high-concept fics out of my system, and I don't have any other burning ideas. I really have to get in the right frame of mind to tackle Ishmael's voice, and it's like I'm holding my breath the whole time and have to eventually come up for air. On the other hand, I definitely think there's room for more Moby Dick horror in the world, if nothing else.

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a restaurant called karma, Red Rooms (2023), Clementine/Kelly-Anne, 5.6k. This is an independent French-Canadian film about two serial killer groupies attending the trial of a man accused of raping and murdering several teen girls. I'd been meaning to watch this for a while, but seeing a Yuletide request was what finally got me to do it, and then I wrote this post-canon getting-together fic in like a week. This is the first fic in the tag, so I wasn't expecting much of a response, but I've been pleasantly surprised at how many people know it and have commented on the fic. <3

It was actually almost 2k longer at one point; the day before reveals I wrote 2k of porn, then woke up Christmas Eve morning and decided the porn took the fic way off track, and I took basically all of it out and made the fic fade to black, all before 1pm. I don't know if I've ever done that before. It was not my favorite time-crunch editing session ever! However, I ship the hell out of these two now and I hope more people write them.

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wreck, Crash (1996), James/Catherine, 1.1k. James gets in a new, more serious accident, and he and Catherine enjoy the aftermath. This was a quick little PWP of them being fucking weird together. I don't know if I really hit the "if he likes cuckolding, he'll LOVE being rendered impotent by a car crash" button as hard as I wanted, but hey, it's 1k, it's fine. And it turns out I and one other person in Yuletide inaugurated the James/Catherine tag on AO3, which blows my mind.
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OFMD: Thistle Teach ‘Em by sweatervest

2026-01-01 09:05 pm[personal profile] kingstoken in [community profile] fancake
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Fandom: Our Flag Means Death
Pairings/Characters: Crew of the Revenge, Israel Hands/Roach (it's tagged this, but it's very blink and you miss it)
Rating: T
Length: 2182 words
Creator Links: sweatervest
Theme: crack treated seriously

Summary: A single artichoke appears onboard the Revenge, and Izzy Hands is nowhere to be found. Naturally, the crew draws the most logical conclusion.

Reccer's Notes: The crew finds a single artichoke on the Revenge and draw the very erroneous conclusion that Izzy has been turned into a vegetable by a sea-witch.  This is delightfully funny, as the crew try to protect the artichoke from getting eaten, among other things.  It very much fits in with the silliness of season 1 of the show. 

Fanwork Links: AO3
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Recent reading

2026-01-01 07:14 pm[personal profile] troisoiseaux
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I appear to have read 87 books in 2025, my first year recording <100 books since 2018, although this just might be due to shoddy record-keeping; I didn't write down any of my 2000s YA re-reads, so that's at least 9 more? Top niche this year was memoirs— 12-15, depending on whether you count non-fiction with an aspect of tying the narrative to personal experience (Caroline Fraser's Murderland, Alexa Hagerty's Still Life With Bones) and/or autofiction (Patricia Lockwood's Will There Ever Be Another You)— followed by 2000s YA/MG nostalgia and People Having Bad Times on Boats.

My first book of 2026 was A Psalm for the Wild-Built by Becky Chambers, which I finished in an afternoon: a solarpunk novella in which a human and a robot meet for the first time since, centuries before, robots gained sentience and disappeared into the wilds to live as they pleased and humans moved to a post-industrialized, post-scarcity society. Oddly enough, it kind of reminded me of Gail Carson Levine's Fairy Dust and the Quest for the Egg, a childhood favorite— it was the world-building through charming descriptions of physical objects, but also something in the stories' shape and cadence, and in the main character's struggle to find their place in a world where people seem to have pretty specific callings...? (Here, the human, Sibling Dex, is a monk who travels from town to town serving tea and as a shoulder to cry on.) None of which is necessarily unique to either book, or used in the same way - for one thing, Chambers pushes back against the idea of people (or robots) having a specific purpose that they need to fulfill - but for whatever reason, the comparison popped into my head and I couldn't shake it. This book also checked the box of first character who's canonically my age that I encountered after turning that age in the record time of one week: early on, there's a line about how Dex - struggling in their vocational change from garden monk to tea monk - "now, at the age of twenty-nine, would like very much to return to the safe shelter of their childhood for an indefinite amount of time until they'd figured out just what the hell they were doing." What a mood.
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Post and Slam: "Imagine the Angels of Bread" by Martín Espada (1996)

2026-01-01 03:05 pm[personal profile] delphi
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"Imagine the Angels of Bread" by Martín Espada

This is the year that squatters evict landlords,
gazing like admirals from the rail
of the roofdeck
or levitating hands in praise
of steam in the shower;
this is the year
that shawled refugees deport judges,
who stare at the floor
and their swollen feet
as files are stamped
with their destination;
this is the year that police revolvers,
stove-hot, blister the fingers
of raging cops,
and nightsticks splinter
in their palms;
this is the year that darkskinned men
lynched a century ago
return to sip coffee quietly
with the apologizing descendants
of their executioners.

This is the year that those
who swim the border's undertow
and shiver in boxcars
are greeted with trumpets and drums
at the first railroad crossing
on the other side;
this is the year that the hands
pulling tomatoes from the vine
uproot the deed to the earth that sprouts the vine,
the hands canning tomatoes
are named in the will
that owns the bedlam of the cannery;
this is the year that the eyes
stinging from the poison that purifies toilets
awaken at last to the sight of a rooster-loud hillside,
pilgrimage of immigrant birth;
this is the year that cockroaches
become extinct, that no doctor
finds a roach embedded
in the ear of an infant;
this is the year that the food stamps
of adolescent mothers
are auctioned like gold doubloons,
and no coin is given to buy machetes
for the next bouquet of severed heads
in coffee plantation country.

If the abolition of slave-manacles
began as a vision of hands without manacles,
then this is the year;
if the shutdown of extermination camps
began as imagination of a land
without barbed wire or the crematorium,
then this is the year;
if every rebellion begins with the idea
that conquerors on horseback
are not many-legged gods, that they too drown
if plunged in the river,
then this is the year.

So may every humiliated mouth,
teeth like desecrated headstones,
fill with the angels of bread.
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Rec-cember masterpost!

2026-01-01 06:58 pm[personal profile] maevedarcy in [community profile] recthething
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To end 2025, I took part in [community profile] rec_cember and I wanted to crosspost the recs here in case people want to browse.

Rec-cember #1: works under 1000 words

Fandoms:
  • The Raven Cycle
  • Doctor Who
  • Carmilla
  • The Hunger Games
  • Teen Wolf
Rec-cember #2: Podfic

Fandoms:
  • 9-1-1
  • All for the Game
  • Goncharov/The Magnus Archives
  • Original Work
  • Sense8
  • Star Trek: The Next Generation
  • Teen Wolf
  • The Bastard Son and the Devil Himself
  • The Raven Cycle
  • Venom (movies)
Rec-cember #3: my top fics of 2025

Fandoms:
  • Sense8
  • Venom (movies)
  • All for the Game
  • League of Legends
  • Doctor Who
  • Marvel Cinematic Universe
  • Game Changers/Heated Rivalry
  • Teen Wolf
  • Cunk on Earth/Interview with the Vampire crossover
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Happy New Year!

2026-01-01 12:09 pm[personal profile] la_samtyr
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Happy New Year, everyone! Best Wishes for the coming Year!

Take care and stay safe!
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Round 182: Crack Treated Seriously

2026-01-01 09:40 am[personal profile] runpunkrun in [community profile] fancake
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Photograph of a young Asian girl using a manual typewriter in an office and looking very serious as she stares straight into the camera. Her black hair is slicked into a low ponytail and her round glasses are so big they extend past her face. She's wearing a shirt and tie and an adult-sized yellow blazer that fits her like a dress, almost as if she has been shrunk. Text, in a typewriter font: Crack Treated Seriously, at Fancake.
Happy New Year! Our theme for January is crack treated seriously!

It's time to put on your serious face because this round is for fanworks with ideas that are very, very bonkers, but approached with the utmost dedication to making it work within whatever passes for reality in that fandom. As with our crack round, I ask that you avoid using language associated with drug use and addiction in your recs, as this kind of language, even when used for fun, can be hurtful and alienating.

Now go bananas—but seriously.

The tag for this round is: theme: crack treated seriously

If you're just joining us, be sure to check out our policy on content notes. Content notes aren't required, but they're nice to include in your recs, especially if a fanwork has untagged content that readers may wish to know about in advance.

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Community Recs Post!

2026-01-01 11:25 am[personal profile] glitteryv in [community profile] recthething
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Every Thursday, we have a community post, just like this one, where you can drop a rec or five in the comments.

This works great if you only have one rec and don't want to make a whole post for it, or if you don't have a DW account, or if you're shy. ;)

(But don't forget: you can deffo make posts of your own seven days a week. ;D!)

So what cool fanvids/fics/podfics/fancrafts/fanart/other kinds of fanworks have we discovered this week? Drop it in the comments below. Anon comment is enabled.

BTW, AI fanworks are not eligible for reccing at recthething. If you aware that a fanwork is AI-generated, please do not rec it here.

Also wishing y'all a happy and healthy 2026! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
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Book reaction: The Georgian Feast

2026-01-01 10:01 am[personal profile] brithistorian
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Happy New Year, everyone!

I just finished reading The Georgian Feast: The Vibrant Culture and Savory Food of the Republic of Georgia by Darra Goldstein. I started reading it after I saw it mantioned in an article that Z. showed us about the Georgian word "shemomechama," which can't really be translated into English, but basically means "I ate too much, but it wasn't really my fault — it was the food's fault for being so delicious."

This was an interesting book, primarily because it wasn't just a cookbook. The first 60 pages were a series of essays about Georgian foods and food culture, meant to prepare you for the recipes that follow. And yet I don't think that anything — short of actually going to Georgia (which one of my uncles did back when it was still part of the Soviet Union) — could actually prepare me for Georgian cooking, which combines recipe I never would have expected in ways I never would have expected. I encountered more recipes that called for walnuts in this cookbook than I had in the rest of my life. And not just in sweet recipes. For example, on page 100 there's a recipe for Chicken Bazhe ("katmis bazhe" in Georgian), in which a baked chicken is served with a sauce made of walnuts, garlic, water red wine vinegar, salt, marigold, coriander seeds, paprika, and cayenne. It's a combination of tastes that I struggle to imagine.

Another aspect of the Georgian recipes that kind of boggled my mind was the number of dishes intended to be served at room temperature. The part of my brain devoted to food safety would cringe every time I read a recipe and it ended with "Serve at room temperature."

Do any of you have experience with Georgian cuisine? If so, I'd love to hear about your experiences with it.

And to all of you (again), Happy New Year!

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Not the greatest start to the year, I contend

2026-01-01 03:51 pm[personal profile] oursin
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Subsequent to the ereader issue (I am yet again having to go through marking books as finished, with additional 'did I ever read that?' vibes), this morning when I turned on my desktop I got Not My Usual LockScreen Picture and then after a certain delay a message that Windows was failing to login to my account. Try again.

So I tried again and it just hung so I switched it off, and next time I turned it on it came up a bit slowly but behaved itself.

Hmmmmm.

So, looking back over last year:

Apparently read the usual 220+ books, exclusive of works read for review purposes.

In being an Ancient Academick:

Had 3 reviews published, one and a fairly extensive essay review somewhere in journals publishing pipeline.

One chapter in an edited volume appeared.

Actually got out and attended 2 conferences (did miss one due to sudden health issues), one of which involved Going Away, and the other of which involved Doing a Keynote (at rather short notice....)

Project in which I have been involved for some years didn't exactly crash and burn but due to various issues (including email errors meaning I was out of the loop for several months) changed and mutated and I may yet decide to Just Send That Article to relevant journals and see what they say.

There was the whole Honorary association with Institution of Highah Learninz not being renewed after over 2 decades because after 1 person who was Honorary Lecturer doing Awful Thing Bringing Institution into Disrepute, they viciously tightened up the protocols. This involved me scurrying around and applying for and getting an Honorary Fellowship at an entirely appropriate and esteemed institution just down the road therefrom.

And am giving a paper to the Fellows' Symposium in the spring.

There is also the possibility re BBL and myself editing the ms of important work of recently prematurely deceased friend and scholar.

So, not quite irrelevant yet...

In more general life stuff:

This was the year of engaging with physiotherapists! On the whole the results have manifested positive results.

I in fact started pursuing that because, following that Routine Health Check last year, I was doing resistance band exercises and noticing some problems. Anyway, have been, cautiously, continuing these and have even moved up from The Really Wimpy Pink One to the Green One. This, plus daily walks, and probably doing my physio exercises, has seen some reduction in weight, and sleep improvements, though whether there's been any benefit re blood pressure, cholesterol etc, who knows.

This has also been the year of tentatively poking my nose out of my hole, both, see above, attending conferences and going to more social events at New Institution, and more general social interactions.

I only finished and published 1 volume in The Ongoing Saga but I'm currently well-advanced in the next one.

Hesitant to say My Plans For This Coming Year, which there are, but I don't like to say, because I think they have been plans before and not happened.

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Books read, January 2026

2026-01-01 09:59 am[personal profile] brithistorian
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Thursday, January 1 + 2 - Starting all over again

2026-01-01 04:21 pm[personal profile] prisca in [community profile] fic_promptlyNSFW
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January 2026: Monthly Posts

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PSA for anyone who's still got stuff they value on LiveJournal

2026-01-01 12:35 pm[personal profile] rydra_wong
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2026-01-01 10:22 am[personal profile] oursin
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Inlaws and not inlaws

2026-01-01 01:01 am[personal profile] conuly in [community profile] agonyaunt
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1. Dear Eric: In 2020, my now-wife and I were engaged. My mother is a nurse and has asthma and was deeply hit with mental and emotional stress from the pandemic. She would not attend most wedding planning events and would always be concerned with germs, wearing an N95 mask and keeping her distance.

My wife had a completely opposite reaction to the pandemic. It was more of a nuisance to her. In her eyes, there was no threat. My wife began to develop a feeling of abandonment from someone who was supposed to be her mother-in-law. She opened up to me about how much she was hurt, and I told her it wasn't my mother's fault and that she was just petrified by the pandemic and it was the only thing she could do.

My wife told me I was taking my mother’s side. Hurtful messages were sent by my wife and my mother just shut down the relationship and blocked her.mMy wedding was in October 2021. My mother braved the crowd of 155 people and attended without a mask. I was so proud of her. But my wife was angry about her presence.

My wife and I are still fighting occasionally about this issue, and the spats are becoming increasingly more intense. She still says extremely hurtful things about my mother often. My mother’s mindset was extreme but considering her working at a nursing home and having asthma, it’s totally understandable. That isn’t believable, according to my wife.

I am writing for guidance to understand how to solve this mess. Was I in the wrong for how I initially reacted toward my wife? I just don’t want this to destroy my marriage.

– Hurting Husband and Son

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2. Dear Eric: Our son and his girlfriend of 24 years got married by a judge. It was a civil ceremony necessary to get him on her health insurance.

He approached my wife and me and said, "we're not into social media.” I did not glean from this that he meant we should post nothing at all. To share the good news with my friends, I did post one photo. Late the next night he texted us to take it down, saying "we asked you directly not to do this." I replied, I'm sorry, I didn't understand that I was not to post anything at all.

I feel bad because my son seems to feel he can forbid me from sharing this news with my friends. Many are longtime friends from church who have known my son for decades. It seems to me a little pushy for him to forbid me to share with my friends what I feel is good news. He seems to want to downplay it.

Should I not have made the post and leaned more toward caution? Should I have interpreted "we're not into social media" differently? I welcome your advice about how to perceive this situation and where to go from here.

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3. Dear Eric: My children are grown. Two live locally and one super local (our home!). One is married with young children, and we see them often, spending most holidays with them. (In-laws are unpleasant, to say the least.)

Our middle child is in a relatively new relationship that has become pretty serious. We planned a beach vacation with my in-laws (our kids’ cousins, aunt and uncles) for Thanksgiving, which everyone seemed excited about when we booked the house.

Now the middle child will come with his girlfriend for just a few days and then fly to her family for the actual holiday. He has been noncommittal about Christmas because they may again travel to her family. When we got married, we alternated holidays with our families or stayed home. We were careful not to favor one side over the other. I really like his girlfriend but am sad that he seems OK with spending all holidays with her family.

Any suggestions on how to broach this subject without sounding whiny or critical? If it matters, she only recently moved to our area.

– Sharing Holidays

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